MIL to MIL MARRIAGE

Being married in the military. WHEW...thats a job in itself...I have been married a little over a year now to the most wonderful man. We have been together for almost 3 years and up until April of this last year (2010) we didnt live together or see eachother everyday and sometimes we would go months at a time without talking to one another...Why you ask? THE MILITARY.

It all started on April 5, 2008. I was in "A" school after bootcamp in the navy. I happened to have been friends with Andrew ( my husband) and we hung out all the time but this particular day was different. I felt an attraction to him I never knew I had. SO we went to the mall and he took me to a movie and out to eat and we just really had a great time...well then we were texting back and forth in the movie we went to go see....and he said "I really like you..." and from that point on we have been together. A week later he graduated "A" school and was gonna leave and go home for 2 weeks and then go on to his duty station in NORFOLK, VA and i was sure he and i would never see each other again. But he left me with this..."i'll come back this weekend..." I thought...YEAH RIGHT!!! Sure enough Friday came and he rode a greyhound bus from Phoenix,AZ to Pensacola, FL...WOW! So we stayed in touch saw eachother a couple more times and then i got sent to the USS RONALD REAGAN...which was not it VA...it was in CALI!!! OMG what am i going to do i thought...so for the next 2 years me and andrew went thru some struggles. I mean thats to be expected when you are stationed on opposite coasts. We thought that was really hard. Half the time i was on the ohter side of the world from him. And even then it wasnt as hard as we thought. Then...WE GOT MARRIED. And thats when it really got hard. They say if you are married in the navy you get more money....HA! NOT MIL to MIL...(Military married to Military). Money wasn't even the half of it. Changing your name in the military is almost impossible. You have to request just like everything else. Then there was the money and housing allowance issues. Oh man we went round and round with our personnel offices and finally $14,000.00 later...everything was worked out. Being married to another military member definitely has its challenges but you know I wouldnt have it any other way. Sometime its better. Like for instance right now my husband is on deployment and we can talk in military code so that i know where he is in the world. And i can understand when i dont get an email for a couple of days or when he talks "military" to me! The point is life in the navy is completely different from being in the civilian world. Including getting married. Hell we really didnt even have the wedding we wanted. I remember when we were just dating how everytime we wanted to see eachother we had to take leave. I know for the first 2 years of our relationship I can count on one hand how many times we saw eachother. It has beena  rough ride but ive enjoyed every single day of it because i love Andrew and he is the best thing that has happened to me.

I leave you with this, Love knows no boundaries and distance makes the heart grow fonder. I AM LIVING PROOF and so is my husband.